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Finding Your Purpose Over 50: Overcoming Frustration and Renewing Your Mindset | The Kingdom Way


Have you ever wondered WHY you are so frustrated… WHY things aren’t different for you?

Have you ever felt so stuck in your own mind trying to figure it out that you literally felt insane and then kept doing the same things over and over again?

How frustrated are YOU?

Frustrated that…

  • Your mind seems to be slowing down and your thinking is jumbled. You feel you are forgetting more than you are not.

  • Your friends seem to be so happy and fulfilled in their lives and yet you look at your life and feel you should be so much further ahead than you currently are for your age.

  • Your money slips through your fingers faster than the sand in a time capsule… you are constantly worried and spending all of your time working so hard to be able to pay your bills, with little hope of anything extra.

  • Your thoughts seem to be more negative every day that goes by and you are struggling to find the positive in life.

  • You smile, yet the upturn of your lips seldom travels further than the mask you feel you are wearing everyday.

  • You have really started wondering… what is my purpose and why am I even here.

You’re at your wits end and don’t know what to do to turn everything around.

Maturing ladies! My name is Marci Nettles … your over 50 friend that is willing to discuss ALL of it, with a desire to give you hope of entering & navigating the BEST years of your life… not alone, together with others just like you!! Women that are older than you, your same age and even younger ladies… We ARE Women that want to BE & DO more, find our purposes, AND have FUN doing it.

We are going to focus on our Mindset and WHY it is important to have a Kingdom way of thinking and HOW you can get on your way to course correcting and renewing YOUR mind to have the life you desire!

I am going to share why you may be feeling the way you are feeling, who you need to know to help you gain clarity, and how you can choose to change your own mind and create a mindset that will not only set you free, it will put you smack dab in the middle of your purpose that will have you living a fulfilled life before you know it!

Let’s start with an analogy that I hope helps put what is happening into perspective…

Let’s talk about my computer…

When I first brought her home she was perfect, shiny and new. Everything ran smoothly and FAST! Then over time, with the input I had entered, added programs and apps,viruses, and even the updates… she started to slow down.  I am sure the few times I accidentally dropped her didn’t help either… it got to a point that I was so frustrated at how slow she was running that I became angry and even had the thought of throwing her against the wall of few times.   

Have you ever had frustrations with a device like this? 

I definitely have & I am sure most of you can relate!

What I have come to realize is the hard object in my hands, the computer, the shell, outside of a few small corner dents, is absolutely fine & was perfect when it was made and I brought it home!

It is what had been put into the computer that was screwing EVERYTHING up!

The Programming… potentially from the moment the first bit of information was downloaded onto the hard drive there was a wrong code, human error or heaven forbid a VIRUS!!

Any one of these things and many others compounded one on top of another have led to where I was…








Beat Down!

Maybe even a little Homicidal!

I had not always recognized that the programming had to be altered and renewed on the computer before it would function properly, and unfortunately, I may have been witnessed to yell, scream, and even curse… at this inanimate object all because what I was trying OVER and OVER again wasn’t working!

It wasn’t until someone with more understanding than I came along and helped me understand that I could call and get help with the programming or that I had to have the VIRUS removed by someone else.

I realized,

FIRST, It wasn’t the computers fault.

Second, It could be fixed!

But only after I took the proper action to IDENTIFY, MAKE A DECISION TO CHANGE or REMOVE the bad programming would I start getting the results I wanted from my computer!!

I CELEBRATED when I knew that my computer could be RESTORED!!

Now think of yourself as that computer…

And CELEBRATE that YOU too can be restored and renewed.


Some of us have had positivity, value and unconditional love programmed into us.  Some of us have had anger, lack, bad money ideas, misunderstanding, sadness, inadequacy, failure, let downs and conditional love driven into us.

MOST of us have had a combination of the two and unfortunately it is the negative we have been led to believe that we often believe the most.

It is not about what your programming has been at this point in our lives, but understanding we are not the same people we were when we were children, teenagers, young adults or even a year ago. It is about identifying where we want to change our beliefs in ourselves and growing ourselves into the LOVING, strong, and fulfilled WOMEN we want to be! Making a difference everywhere we go!

As it says in Genesis 1:27, "So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them."

We are just like a computer before it has input from the purchaser,

We were all PERFECT upon our creation in our minds, bodies, and souls… before the input from the World that created the beliefs that are now holding you back from your God given purpose!

It is the PROGRAMMING and the mindset we took on that violated our perfection and has created barriers, walls and beliefs that keep us from trusting God, Loving ourselves and others fully, and allowing us to step into our purpose & be all we were meant to be.

The truth is…

We all have pain from our past that has shaped us.

  • Parental hurts

  • Romantic hurts

  • Church hurts

  • Life hurts

  • And even Lie-dentities that were spoken over us… such as we were not smart enough, pretty enough, creative enough, loving enough… all these things shaped how we look at ourselves.  These are anything that goes against what God says about you.

In order for us to truly move into the Women we were created to be, we must:

Understand that the moments in our life that have hurt us badly are just that, moments.

Consider that those things happened for us, and not to us.

We have the choice of how they are going to affect our present and future.

It truly is up to us individually to DECIDE that it is past time for us to change our mindsets and what we are focused on. To change our programming!

Take OWNERSHIP of your Life!


First, we need to know who it is that knows the truth about us.

Isaiah 45:18

“For thus says the Lord, Who created the heavens, Who is God, Who formed the earth and made it, Who has established it, Who did not create it in vain, Who formed it to be inhabited: ‘I am the Lord, and there is no other.’”

God created All things, has control over ALL things, and has the right to judge.  He also deserves all the praise!

He had a plan for us to be part of his family from the beginning yet satan, the enemy, or whatever you want to call the darkness in the world… tempted the first humans and they sinned against God, creating a separation that could only be corrected by God.

Romans 3:25

“For God sent Jesus to take the punishment for our sins and to satisfy God's anger against us. We are made right with God when we believe that Jesus shed His blood, sacrificing His life for us...”

God loved us so much that he sent his only son to die for us and his blood created a way for us to be part of God's family again.

2 Corinthians 5:17

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

By accepting Jesus as our Savior, we are adopted into God’s family and made clean, renewed, and restored.

Have you asked Jesus into your heart and to be your savior?  If not, you could do that now by simply praying this prayer…

Jesus, I am a sinner and I know I am lost without you.  I believe that you came to earth and lived as a man so that you could die on the cross to take on my sin and give me the opportunity to be part of God’s family again. Jesus, I receive this free gift and ask you to come into my heart and forgive my sins. Thank you Lord for your goodness. In Jesus name, AMEN!

If you prayed that prayer for the first time, please reach out to me so I can pray with you.

What if by trusting God and believing who he is and who he says we are, and if we stopped trying to be like God… we could have the Kingdom mindset that would set us free of all of those things that up until now have been causing you your frustrations, set-backs, and have been keeping you from your purpose?

Start with giving up control.  God is the one who knows all and is in control.

In Proverbs 3:5-6, it says "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Trust God and let the uncontrollable things go so they stop controlling your life!!

Second, We always have a choice.

The HARD choice to stay the way your life currently is and continue living the life that is full of frustration, or make the HARD decision to change your thinking, with a mindset shift that will lead to open doors that cannot be closed!

There are several things you can do that will result in a mindset shift… let’s start with the one many consider the hardest of all.


To be FREE, it is vital for you to Forgive yourself and others that have offended you. When you hold unforgiveness you are giving power and control to someone that may not even know they hurt you.  If they know they hurt you, forgive them anyway.  Forgiveness is for YOU, not for them.

Forgiving those who have offended you is a true KEY to unlocking the dungeon you have been holding yourself in.

Forgiving yourself helps remove the thoughts of unworthiness that are the ceiling to any growth you desire in yourself, your relationships and especially in your finances.

Next let’s talk about Negativity,

You absolutely need to eliminate Negativity from your life to understand your true value as a creation of God in his image… which is perfect!

Feed your mind with things that help you grow in the direction of your purpose.  Avoid anything that takes you into a negative mindset as that will keep you from using your mind power to reach your desired outcomes.

Decide you are WORTHY and VALUABLE… when we feel less than, we are mean to ourselves – damaging in the way we look at ourselves, treat ourselves, talk to ourselves & how we treat others… Negativity damages relationships. By becoming a person with a positive mindset you may even have the pleasant surprise of helping the other people around you with negative thinking to shift to positive thinking too!

The time you spend in a negative outcome mindset is stealing from the time you can be focused on plentiful outcome thoughts!

Start focusing on what you want more of, that brings energy, joy and fulfillment into your life.

Finally, let’s talk about comparison and your perspective on failure.

Comparitis is surely the most fatal of all ‘itis’s, it is sure to kill, steal and destroy all of your hopes, dreams, and your purpose.

We were each given special gifts and talents as it says in Romans 12: 6-8,

"We have different gifts, according to the grace given to

each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in

accordance with your[a] faith;  if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully."

Nowhere does it say that you should be looking at someone else’s gift and comparing ours to theirs or to covet their gift. 

We are to take our own gifts and cultivate them whole-heartedly with the purpose to serve God and those we are given to bless.

This mindset, THE KINGDOM MIND SET, is GOLD and will give you a LIFE free to be YOU outside of the shame of not being good enough that you have been living in.

Now I would like to pose a question to you about failure…

Do you consider failing a negative or a positive thing?

Many of us were made to think that failure is a bad thing. That if we tried something new and were not successful that we should feel ashamed and afraid to try anything else outside of what we know we are good at.

This is a death mindset that will keep you stuck in the HARD your life is today.

Are you ok with that?

I don’t think you are… if you were ok with the life you currently have, you would not have stayed with me this long.

Saying that, I want to share with you a different perspective and mindset to failure.

Failure to me means…

A learning opportunity

A deduction process of how not to do it next time.

An opportunity to grow and applaud myself for getting out of my comfort zone.

Success is failing 6 times and getting up and trying a 7th time!

What area of your life could you try again… not the same way yet taking the lessons from the first failure and doing it differently?

To wrap this up, You are a powerful woman with many experiences that can become wisdom with a Kingdom mindset.

I pray you are ready to take ownership of your life, removing your old frustrations by reprogramming your mindset.

Make the decision now to set yourself FREE by leaning into the truth of who you are, extending forgiveness, and removing as much negativity from your life that you have control over.

Leaning into your own gifts and being happy for others in their successes.

And deciding that failure is a learning opportunity that experienced enough will lead you to the life you truly want!

Do you feel that tug in your heart?

That is confirmation that you finally have the right mind to move forward… trusting God.

Romans 12:2 says, ”Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

I would love to hear from you on which area you are making a decision to change your perspective, mindset and move forward today!


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