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Writer's pictureDondee & Marci Nettles

Discovering True Identity: Breaking Free from the "Liedentity" to Embrace God’s Truth and Experience His Love

Updated: Jun 20

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Today, we dive deep into understanding our true identity and shedding the false beliefs that have held us back. Through my personal experiences and my relationship with Jesus, I want to share the powerful transformation that happens when we embrace our true identity in Christ. Let’s explore how to break free from the lies that anchor us to our past and step into the life God has intended for us.


Understanding Identity: A Personal Journey


The Early Years: Forming a False Identity

For the first 40 years of my life, my decisions were clouded by shame and guilt. My self-perception was shaped by past experiences and the words of others. I felt unworthy, not good enough, and often isolated. These feelings stemmed from early childhood experiences and the relationships I had during my formative years, from zero to eight.


The Impact of Childhood Experiences

Childhood experiences, especially traumatic ones, significantly influence our self-identity. I was told I wasn’t important, pretty, or smart enough. These negative messages became the foundation of my self-worth. For instance, I felt like the black sheep of my family, unable to meet the expectations set by the religion I was raised in. This led to a constant feeling of inadequacy and being the "bad kid."


Personal Struggles and Their Impact

Being raised in a religious environment that emphasized rule-following over relationship-building made me feel like I could never measure up. I constantly found myself in situations where I had to confess my wrongdoings and receive instructions on how to make amends. This reinforced the belief that I was inherently bad. At age 13, a traumatic experience further damaged my self-worth, leading me to adopt identities of being unworthy and undeserving of care. This resulted in behaviors and labels that only deepened my sense of not belonging or being good enough.


The Turning Point: Embracing a New Identity in Christ


A Life-Changing Relationship with Jesus

In my 40s, I reached a breaking point. Tired of trying to live up to others' expectations and feeling like a failure, I turned to Jesus. Calling on His name and accepting His sacrifice for my sins transformed my life. I realized that the negative identities I had carried were lies from the enemy designed to keep me from my true potential.


The Power of God's Truth

Understanding that my true identity is rooted in God’s view of me changed everything. God sees us as His beloved children, forgiven, and set free through Jesus' sacrifice. Here are some key truths from the Bible about our identity in Christ:

  • Beloved: You are deeply loved by God, as stated in 1 John 3:1.

  • Child of God: You are part of God’s family, adopted through faith (Romans 8:15).

  • Forgiven: Your sins are washed away by Jesus’ blood (Ephesians 1:7).

  • Set Free: You are no longer bound by past mistakes (John 8:36).

  • Masterpiece: You are wonderfully made in God’s image (Ephesians 2:10).

  • Victorious: In Christ, you have secured victory over the enemy (1 Corinthians 15:57).


Breaking Free from Lies


The Concept of "Liedentity"

The false identities we carry, which I call "liedentities," are lies imposed on us by others or our own negative self-talk. These lies act as anchors, keeping us from rising to our true potential. It’s crucial to recognize and reject these lies to embrace the truth of who we are in Christ.


Steps to Embrace Your True Identity

  1. Recognize the Lies: Identify the false beliefs about yourself. Reflect on the negative messages you received during your formative years and recognize them as lies.

  2. Call on Jesus: Accept Jesus into your life and let His truth replace the lies. This is a crucial step toward transformation.

  3. Renew Your Mind Daily: Regularly remind yourself of what God says about you through scripture and prayer. Consistently immersing yourself in God's word helps in renewing your mind.

  4. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your progress to reinforce positive change. Science shows that celebrating small victories releases dopamine, encouraging you to continue positive behaviors.


Practical Tools for Identity Renewal


My Identity in Jesus Resource

To support your journey, I recommend the "My Identity in Jesus" resource compiled by Ben Malcolmson. This guide offers scriptural references to reinforce your new identity in Christ. Daily renewing your mind with these truths will help solidify your transformation.


Key Truths from the Bible about Your Identity:

  • You are His beloved: "See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" (1 John 3:1).

  • You are a child of God: "The Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father.’" (Romans 8:15).

  • You are forgiven: "In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace" (Ephesians 1:7).

  • You are set free: "So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed" (John 8:36).

  • You are a masterpiece: "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do" (Ephesians 2:10).

  • You are victorious: "But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ" (1 Corinthians 15:57).


Embracing Your True Identity: Practical Steps


Daily Renewal of the Mind

Embracing your true identity requires daily effort. Here are practical steps to help you renew your mind:

  • Start Your Day with Scripture: Begin each day by reading and meditating on Bible verses that affirm your identity in Christ.

  • Pray and Reflect: Spend time in prayer, asking God to reveal His truths and help you let go of lies.

  • Affirmations: Write down affirmations based on scripture and repeat them throughout the day. For example, “I am a beloved child of God” or “I am forgiven and set free.”

  • Join a Supportive Community: Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and encourage you on your journey.

  • Seek Professional Help if Needed: Sometimes, breaking free from deeply rooted lies may require the help of a counselor or therapist who can provide professional guidance and support.


Conclusion: Embrace Your True Identity Today

It’s never too late to discover and embrace your true identity. Whether you’re in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, God’s truth about who you are can set you free from the lies of the past. Join me in cutting off those anchors and stepping into the beautiful, purposeful life God has planned for you.


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Remember, you are more than enough because you are loved by God.


- Marci

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